As I scroll through the great pictures of back to school or college dorm pictures I get that aww isn’t that sweet feeling down deep inside. The first day is always special, however, the days that follow are tough. The reality of it all is that it is life and darting the in’s and out’s of school are just a trial run for the tough arduous task of adulthood.

We all want our kid’s to be prepared, for school and for life.

Every year I start with high hopes that this will be the year that everything flows, that school will be easier than the year before and my kid will make the best decisions ever.

Yet, life gets messy and even homeschooling kids face many of the same pressures that other schoolers face, between scheduling conflicts, schooling in the car, an ASL class and music, it can be tough.

I have always given the same advice, every year and it is not the end-all but it when applied daily it can help keep focus and remain on a steady course throughout the school.


Nothing comes easy, however, when our commitment to become one with God is first, our goals become in tune with God’s plan and a desire to bring him glory. I used to quote Proverbs 16:3 to my kids every day on our way to school. We talked about commitment to God first and then our goals second. Imagine my surprise when my college son came home with this tattoo on his arm.


It is only a dream until you write it down. What do you want to accomplish this year in school? How about at church and serving others? Write it down and then write down how you want to accomplish it. A plan for your school year and a plan for your life.

Desire without knowledge is not good– how much more will hasty feet miss the way!

Proverbs 19:2


The biggest mistake we make is allowing others to create a bad attitude within us. If we are working to please God then someone else’s bad attitude should not cripple us.

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.

Colossians 3:23


While this looks like a no brainer the fact that people can influence us is a powerful reminder of what the Bible tells us within so many scriptures. We always tried to set down with our kids when we felt they were being pulled away from their convictions or moral character and take a close look at those top 5 people that were influencing their lives. Take inventory with your children together. Maybe take inventory with your top 5 friends as well, it could be an eye-opener for both of you.

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.

Proverbs 13:20

Before writing this blog, I asked my oldest son if he remembered any of the advice I had given him. I was shocked when told me that the next advice was not seen as advice.

It was a rule that applies to everything in life, from school, work, marriage, children. It is not advice is a rule.

So here it is…

100/0 Rule

It is simple, it is the rule of Christ.

Give 100 % and expect nothing in return. That is school, friendship, marriage, life. Jesus tells those that were standing around listening to the sermon on the mount in Matthew 5… someone sues you give them more than they ask, someone demands that you walk a mile walk two.

Give more than is expected with no expectations in return.

For it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.

Phillipians 2:3

I have tried to live by these rules and teach my children as well, and sometimes I fail miserably so I fall to my knees and pray for strength to try again. I pray for you and your children as they walk through this school year.

Because he first loved me,