What are some Signs of a Dysfunctional Family?

One of the characteristics that may define a dysfunctional family is creating drama within your family.  Making a functional family dysfunctional because of your behavior. 

That is what we have in the story of Abraham and Sarah and the “sister” wife, Hagar.  It is hard enough to have a functional marriage, but when you throw another woman into the mix you have just thrown your family into chaos!  Even when it was permissible it was not always functional.  

Genesis 16, we see that Sarah, in her over-functioning for God sends Abrahams’s family into a new world of turmoil and utter dysfunction. Sarah extends her husband to Hagar for the purpose of producing offspring.  Abraham takes her up on this offer! 

Yikes, Abraham, maybe you should have thought this through a little? 

 This may be in hopes of creating the promise of God through Hagar.  The reality is that God does not need us to set his plan in motion.  

Who was Hagar in the Bible?

Hagar is the maidservant that becomes Abrahams’s wife and bears a son, Ishmael for Abraham. One innocent maidservant, thrown into the middle of a dysfunctional family.  By no fault of her own, she bears the cruel punishment of Sarah over the birth of Ismael. 

Hagar’s tears are heard by God and promises are made to Hagar through her son Ishmael. 

Sarah becomes the over-functioning wife who tries to control her marriage and the promises of God. 

How can I learn more about the history of Abraham and Sarah?

 The Bible and Coffee Podcast is linking the Bible Project Video here below for more overall information on Genesis.  We also ask that you read Genesis 16 to get a greater grasp of the actual Story.  We will link the Bible Verses referenced in our podcast. 


We are so grateful for the truthful stories that God shares with us about families.  We are not perfect wives, husbands, maidservants, and stepchildren.   That does not mean that God does not love us or forgive us when we fail.  If you are a step-parent or a blended family, please jump over to our sister website, WWW. Gritty-Grace.com  for specific with blended family issues.